Bullies and Suicide.

I feel for all parents whose children pass away before their time.
We have cases where children are killed by bullies and cases where the kids kill themselves.

I would hate to be in the shoes of any of these parents because I know it would kill me to lose my kids.
I live for them.

Schools and psychologists and all these other people with good intentions, are not helping matters.
If something is a lie, then why does it bother a person what is said about them?

The more you show it bothers you, the more they will attack you.
If you did something that was a mistake, it still doesn't make you a bad person.
No kid is perfect especially the kids involved in promoting pain on internet.
It should be clear to every one what they are doing and that because they do it, the person they are doing it to is innocent.

So many kids lie to look popular to get dates.They did it in our time and they do it today.
Nothing changes.
Nothing makes them angrier than to have you walk by and wink at them with a smile cause then they don't know if it's true or if it isn't.

In those days we had the black phones.
Once one of my ex neighbors daughter, who had a very bad reputation,
called to try to get me into the prostitution scene. She was much older than I was.
When they get old, they need to recruit fresh blood  .(That hasn't changed today either.)

First she would call to entice me to go meet her and this other woman as friends.
When that didn't work and I excused myself politely cause I had more important things to do,
she began with threats and belligerence to scare me.
 Yes.
She did scare me because she sounded like a lunatic. I had no idea why she would begin calling me. We were never friends. She was much older and really a very bad person to be around.
I was no fool but you see I was older and strong in my principles. I knew right from wrong by then.
When you see and hear stuff like this you walk away in the opposite direction .
 You never go to meet these people.

Knowing she wasn't going to stop calling, because if you hung up on her she'd call back and continue to harrass,
I put the phone down under a pillow, and let her continue to herself.
She yelled and yelled and then finally after about 15 min she realized no one was listening.

She took criminology at school or so she said, so she knew the phone could be tapped and in any event the number could be traced and I could have many people listening to her from another phone.
In the end, she was more afraid of me, than I of her and she stopped calling.

But then you never know if these people will ever follow through with their threats.
 I never associated with her except that our parents knew each other and
she went to a wedding I once attended.

I took Karate at school because I thought if I had to exercise, I should also learn something.
In my class they empowered you by saying when you are done, your hands will be weapons.
You should never use this art form unless you are put into a corner and unable to walk away.
Further more, they tested the students and if you had a temper they would kick you out of class because they knew this was trouble waiting to happen.
I wonder how many marshal arts teachers do this today?
It's a moral and ethical obligation to decide to do the right thing especially when you will lose money.

To the girls, we were told that if you had to make a move, to make sure it worked for you to incapacitate the
aggressor because if not, you will not get another chance. Men are more powerful than women.
 A punch/kick from them, will break your neck.

Learning to be fit had its' rewards because I walked straighter, taller, but most important of all
I was never afraid. My senses were so in tune with my environment, I could smell trouble a mile away and was always able to walk away. Saved me more times than I care to mention.
It's really not safe out there for women, even today.

My teacher taught me a valuable lesson and I carry it with me always.

After you reach a certain age shit happens.
Your muscles turn to shit and you feel helpless and no karate moves will help you.
Your bones will break before a young persons' will.

So you carry needles,chop sticks, a walking cane, a purse with sharp studs you can swing. 
Sharp rings will help you especially if you hit the nose or eyes and you never walk alone.
This last one is the best way to avoid trouble coming to you.
From Charles Bronson , the vigilante, I learned about money being put into a sock
 swings pretty nicely. lol

Again, you never use anything unless you are put into a corner and have no means of escape.
You look out for any other object around you that you can use to stop an attack. Today a cell phone is a very good friend because you can push a button and people at the other end can hear what you say and what's happening and call for help.
All of this is called self defense.

For school bullies, I always taught my boys the first punch rule.
Words never hurt you.
To be a man, you have to set your principles and people will know who you are through your behavior and  actions.
If you are a good honest person, you may not know it, but many people will, from the silent sidelines and the stupid people who harrass and comment, they show themselves for who they are too.Unworthy, untrustworthy, trouble makers, immature. etc....
They are busy bodies, insecure  people without character and easy to crack and  if you just give them time, they will hang themselves.People who feel good about themselves will never stoop so low as to hurt other people.
 It really does work and no one has to commit suicide.
 Just be patient. Patience is a virtue.

Have a friend take a video of how they harass you in school halls. Evidence is soo easy to obtain these days to show the right people what is being done to you.
Learn how to fight back.
If a person lays a hand on you, then this is the first punch which frees you into the use of self defense.
Punch in the nose. Punch hard.

I told my kids if you do the first punch , you are on your own but if they do, then I will be standing right there beside you because up until the first punch, there were choices to be made by the aggressor, to look for help to resolve the problem in a civilized manner.

After the first punch, there is no other option left to discern guilt or innocence because the aggressor is guilty no matter what the problem was. No one can argue differently.

Take for example North Korea today. As long as she talks, nations listen and sit quiet but the moment she thrusts out a weapon, the first punch, she better be ready for bad things to happen.

Both my boys  won respect and brownie points for this method of dealing with problems No one ever touched them..

Parents have to empower their kids with knowledge of how to fight back.
Step back, analyze your situation and opponent, prepare a strategy and wait.

Parents should not give 12 year olds phones with cameras they can use in bathrooms where they undress and take pictures of themselves to send to friends or computers with cameras.Phones should not be toys to play with.

But most of all, teach your kids the 10 Commandments. so they feel secure about themselves and know right from wrong and are not swayed by professionals who know how to talk to kids.

If schools did this and put everyone on the same page with God, things would be much nicer at school.
If parents did this at home it would reinforce what the school does and things could be resolved much easier.
These are brilliant and simple laws and apply to many life issues and resolve many psychological problems.
They never leave you in the dark to struggle alone.

They empower you to have faith and trust in the people who matter because those people love you and would die for you.
No one needs to live in pain this way and feel alone.
Stay strong and never crack the egg.

xoxoxoxoxoxo