Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Kids and Suicide

Every one speaks of bullying which they say forces kids to commit suicide
but no one goes to the root causes.
Why do people bully?

Is it because they are bullied too ? Most people are bullied.
I hear stories from women who are bullied and yelled at every day at work.
They are exploited, by being forced to work overtime without pay because the boss knows they need a job.
Today people need jobs so they get bullied. They come home upset or unemployed and stress out the family or get more stressed by family issues and then the kids go out and bully as well.
The kids used to be able to find jobs but today even they can't find anything. So they spend time hanging on the streets with their friends.

And why do we have this situation to day, if banks and other companies didn't outsource jobs.
All our manufacturing jobs are gone. The environmentalists seem to live on air cause they don't worry about jobs and the utility companies buy everything out so they don't care where they get their money from. They will get it one way or another.

People are hired, especially lawyers to find loop holes, to kill the middle class.
Judges know it and do nothing about it. The lawyers present lies every day, wear people down financially for nothing, harass people for nothing, keep people away from work with their own job to destroy a man, people worry, don't sleep nights and no one says anything.
There is no such thing as lawyer client confidentiality anymore or privacy.
They find out your business and then set you up for the kill.

Bullying is not that simple an issue.

We want the trickle down effect in job creation and trying to shop so people have jobs but there are no jobs to make money to trickle down anymore.

We have one group camping objecting to economic abuse and another camping to buy foreign made products and people complain about the first guys making them out to be the bad guys when they are suffering out there for us all.

It is time to buy Made in North America products!!! People have to stop buying foreign made products and unite so bullying stops. lol

Instead, they will pass laws to create something worse than bullying.
It will involve theft and violence and broken cameras which tax payers will have to replace.

Bullying corporations and laws trickle down to the people, who are depressed and this affects the kids.

So what are passing anti bullying laws going to do, add fuel to the fire?

Happy people, do not bully.
You bully because you hurt inside.

One of the first things my parents told me when I was bullied was to fight back and remember that the person hurting you, is hurt himself. So it isn't as personal as people believe.
This understanding helps a lot because it puts the bully and the victim on the same footing and inspires you to act in self defense and this then becomes a lesson in survival skills.

Life is about survival. In the animal kingdom , which we are a part of, the strong live and the weak die.
It's always been this way.

If things keep going the way they are, pretty soon a lot of people will either be living on the street or found dead on it.

All the laws will do is fill more jails at tax payers expense and act as a bandaide solution resolving nothing.

So we need to stop and think a while why the issue of bullying has become so grave.
9 year old kids should not be thinking of suicide.

(This opinion was written because of an article in the Montreal Gazette on kids and suicide)


Sub-Radar-Mike said...

Thought provoking. Such a sad state of affairs as young kids feel as though the only way for things to change is to end themselves.

A Lady's Life said...

life was difficult for our grand parents and it became a little easier for our parents. But today I fear for the future of our kids Sub radar - because for every little step forward people make, there is a plan being made to force them to take two steps back.The good guys are made to look like the bad guys and the rich guys have money to leave things hanging for a very long time.Laws apply to local and national issues but companies are multinational, so they do not care.
And who suffers the most as a result? Kids.

SandyCarlson said...

You're right that people throw their weight around at every level of society. You have me thinking.

A Lady's Life said...

Sandy - thanks

Lydia Kang said...

Bullying is complicated and heartbreaking. I appreciate your thoughts on such a difficult subject.

A Lady's Life said...

thanks lydia -

Diane said...

Totally the wounded-chicken syndrome. When a chicken is wounded or appears weakened in any fashion, all of the other chickens pick it to death. Literally. I don't know why. Are we like those chickens? Do we sense a weaker soul and immediately feel the urge to strike? Does it make us feel better about ourselves? We are one step above someone? Insightful, thought-provoking post. Thank you so much!

A Lady's Life said...

Welcome Diane. Gosh I hope people are not like chickens. We are supposed to be better lol
but bullying is a fact of life. You find it everywhere.Schools, businesses,politics etc... If they make it a hate crime, it will not be just kids in jail lol It will open doors for many people to be put in jail for their words and actions leading to more pain and suffering.
Then it will just go underground into devious evil.

Gattina said...

And I thought this would only exist here, but I see it's the same everywhere.

A Lady's Life said...

Gattina - people in general are bullies. Passing anti bully laws means every swear word you say could be viewed as bullying and subject to fines. Which if you think about it , wouldn't be such a bad thing. But it would be better to teach kids how to win over bullies rather than to create a worse situation with laws.