Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Memories and Gifts.

When ever I look at this picture it gives me the willies.
Out of the three girls, only I am still alive.
One would never believe such a thing could happen.
We all had a bright future ahead of us.
The girl on the left, was 4 years older than I was.
She always bullied me especially at my aunts' wedding, where we were 3 flower girls and
fought over who would hold her dress. She and this other girl, were both 4 years older than I was.
We all could have held it but she and her friend  didn't want me to and tore my dress but
 I got into trouble
and was quite upset that my Aunt took their side.
I was three and she and her friend must have been 7.
My feelings were very hurt that day and the photographer
captured me looking up at my aunt in my torn dress while the other two looked so
smug holding their flowers lol
Anyway, when she grew up, she lost her weight and became an
accomplished piano player.
She married a nice man, they bought a house, and next thing you know,
she died, right in front of it.
Boom, snap and it was over.
They said it was because of birth control pills .
She was only around 25 years old.
I think they changed  birth control pills after that so this sort of thing wouldn't happen.

The little girl on the right, I played with .
She was a year younger and she was the one who I pinched that day, just to hear her
begin wailing from very low base up to high soprano.
She always got into trouble for that because it sounded like a loud siren and
 very annoying to the ear.
After she calmed down and we were alone, I'd pinch her again and
 she got into trouble again. lol
It was just a little pinch but that's all she needed.
We were all little Angels back then. lol

She had a cute smile and people liked her cause she joked a lot
as opposed to me who was always serious, shy
and philosophical.
She became ill I believe with meningitis cause the whole church was praying for her and
only through Gods' will.
She later she tempted fate by mixing herself up with party kids in High School,
and taking drugs.
We lost touch by then because I
didn't party or do drugs and didn't want to get
into the trouble she always got into.
 She married twice and had a child.

She passed away a few years back at around 40 years of age,
 from cancer and I attribute that to the drugs she took.
Many people who I met in hospital suffering from pancreatic and liver cancers did
drugs and alcohol when they were young.
It all seems fun. Every one does it but it shortens your life.
She left behind a young son who still needed a Mom and devastated old parents.

Thus you lose so many people in your life .
You look back and reality sets in that the day will come for you as well.
Every day is a gift.
Just like the streets you grew up in have changed,
erased everything about your life,
the people all go too and all you have left are pictures and memories and
you sit looking at them, reflecting by gone years.
You have fond memories even of the bad days and remember being told
not to rush to grow up.
 How right they were.

When it comes to children, I want my breast up front first,
to take the bullet so to speak,
so they may live a full life.

The good the bad and the ugly are all
part of lifes' experiences and if we can survive another day
to remember
well... that's a gift too.
The main dish at a dinner party some friends attended, turned out to be a disaster.
As guests began to leave, my friends' husband tried to console the hostess by saying:
"I'm sorry about the main course but the dessert was excellent."
Yes it was" she answered. "Your wife made it. "
Readers Digest


Life 101 said...

It's interesting how a picture can bring forth stories. I have thousands of old photographs. Every now and then, I'll look through them. Some of them brings a rush of memory both bitter and sweet.

Nice post.

A Lady's Life said...

101 - This is certainly what they are doing right now with me.
Reminds me of my Grandmoa when she said if she knew then, what she knew now, she would not have hard feelings about anything.
As you get older , you mellow and see most of your problems really were nothing at all. lol

Akelamalu said...

There is no rhyme or reason why some people die young, I believe one goes when their time is up, it's a simple as that.

Gattina said...

Ah, childhood memories ! I notice that the fashion had been the same as here !
I lost my best friend 3 years ago, that was very hard. She had pancreas cancer. Another died just 3 months ago, spine cancer and then general cancer all this in not even a year. She never smoked, never drank, lived a healthy life, was a good painter and left a husband and son and grandchildren. Cancer is the devil !

A Lady's Life said...

Akelamalu - In these two cases it was due to drugs.
The first one birth control the second drugs and alcohol.

Everything today has something to do with the immune system.
Our immune system, with every generation is getting weaker due to the air, water and food we eat.
Add to that smoking drinking etc....
and there you go.

People used to smoke good tobacco in the past and still live to be over 100 years old.
This will not happen today with todays cigarettes.

A Lady's Life said...

gattina - thats terrible.
Today we have many evil diseases.
I especially hate the neurological ones.

George said...

The memories that old photos bring are often bitter sweet. Thanks for sharing your memories with us.

A Lady's Life said...

George - at least we have some
lol So much we forget.